December 6, 2018 – ABC News-
When I contacted people whose job it is to listen — psychotherapists, counselors, journalists — one thing came up repeatedly.
It was a quote from the late author Stephen Covey: “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand. They listen with the intent to reply.”
Think about when you listen to somebody. Be honest: are you thinking about you and how you’ll formulate the wittiest, most intelligent or most logical reply? Or are you actually hearing what the other person is trying to say? These are two different things.
If you fall into the former category, fear not! Take solace in the fact many of us are more focused on how we’ll come across ourselves. But also know that you can transform yourself into an effective, excellent listener.
It’s a skill that’ll be invaluable in the small talk season of the Christmas party.
Listening Seekers, what are your thoughts?